If you’re reading this article, you are more likely new to anal sex- someone who doesn’t know what anal or butt sex feels like and would like to make the most of it without getting hurt. The truth is something you want to hear first: anal or butt sex is painful, and there is no way around that.

Anal sex is much like smoking. If you want to make your butt sex pleasurable, vanish uneasy feelings and negative thoughts from your mind.

What does anal sex feel like?

Anal or Butt sex is violating. You might wonder why men want to have anal sex over vaginal sex? Though both sex positions add excitement and give unbeatable pleasure, anal feels more raw, hurtful, and unemotional.

When a man desire to have butt sex, it feels as if he not only wants to violate a woman, but he is also okay with hurting her. Fraught with anxiety and fear, butt sex is something that a woman fantasizes about doing.

5 Ways to make anal sex pleasurable and graceful

When a woman has anal sex, the sensation is intense. Even the unbearable pain gives the maximum level of satisfaction. Pressing up against the clitoris from the inside out, if butt sex is done with serenity, an intense orgasm gives ultimate pleasure.

1. Use lots and lots of lubes: 

Remember, lube is your friend in butt sex. Your anus is not created for sex. Also, it’s not self-lubricated like the vagina. So, if you want butt sex to go smoothly without damaging the anal tissue, use lots and lots of lubes.

2. Go slowly and gently:

See you will confront butt sex the first time, so it’s okay if you move patiently. Anal sex is very intense and probably overwhelming. When we say slowly and gently, we mean inch by inch. Give time to your partner to adjust. Try different sex positions to find the comfortable one for you. With this, your partner will ensure that you won’t get hurt and get to experience a more profound sensation.

3. Start with sex toys:

Sex toys are bliss for butt sex. By using butt plugs that are specially designed for anal stimulation, you get the idea that will you be able to hold a penis in your anal for a long time or not? Tip: Using butt plugs during foreplay helps a lot.

4. Communication:

Communication is essential in butt sex. If butt sex is hurting you or turns out to differ entirely from what you have expected, you may put a stop to it at any point. Both parties should be comfortable and onboard throughout the entire experience.

5. The first experience with butt sex will not be perfect:

Never assume your first experience with anal or butt sex would be outstanding. It takes several tries to get butt sex best. Don’t do it till the time you and your partner are not comfortable. Wait for the right moment. Be patient. And know that – when you do butt sex at the right time, you will experience an astounding deeper level of stimulation.

If you want to give butt sex a try, communicate with your partner. Your agenda shouldn’t be getting an orgasm at the first go. You should be very careful and physically and mentally ready because anal sex will be dangerous. Bad anal sex can cause damage to your body and can even have severe damage to your relationship. Hence, if you want butt sex to go smoothly, it’s best to adhere to the following rules.

Do you have any sexual fetish? I wonder if all of us nurses have hidden fetishes. A fixation & obsessions can be with anything that drives us crazy and gives our mind the maximum level of sexual satisfaction.

One should understand there is no harm in having a sexual fetish, everyone has, but it’s just that we nurture them within limits. Till the time your sexual fetishes are not threatening your partner, it’s good, but the moment they become an obsession in your life, you’re treating dangerous around.

A sexual fetish is accompanied by certain feelings of guilt or shame. 

What are sexual fetishes?

In a psychological term, a sexual fetish states as an obsession with a non-living object or with a body part. The scientific name applied to sexual fetishes is a paraphilia.

Sexual fetish & obsessions vary from individual to individual. Commonly sexual fetishes fall under three categories: media, form, and animate. 

A fetish that developed for a particular material like leather, silk, rubber lies in the first category that is ‘media.’ But with ‘form’ fetish, the fixation gets developed with women high-heel boots, lingerie & stilettos. Where in ‘animate’ the fetish or fixation gets high with touching or looking at partner body parts such as hairs, feet, buttocks, or breasts.

Even though having a sexual fetish is good as they boost sex drive, it also enhances libido. Moreover, there is a different level of degrees of sexual fetish ranging from mild to extreme.

You all might be heard of BDSM or role-play, but there are some other sexual fetishes down under the carpet.

Let’s talk about the long over-abused & dirty different sexual fetishes that ensure to give terrific sexual pleasure, which we desperately need.

Here are the 15 sexual fetishes & obsessions that are way more common than you’d like to imagine:

Fetishism:

Anything which is in physical contact with your desired partner can sexually arouse you. Be it their clothes, phone, wallet, or any other object that can turn you on seconds!

Katoptronophilia:Source: Scoopwhoop

Intimating in front of the mirrors is what really turns you on!

Trichophilia:

Now this sexual arousal is with partner body parts, like the smell of their hairs, body fragrance, and even playing with their hairs.

Anililagnia:

A sexual fetish in which men are more likely to be attracted to older women and never to someone their own age.

Knismolagnia:

A most common sexual fetish, in which a person becomes sexually aroused just by tickling. Yes, tickling by anyone.

Voyeurism:

Watching other people having sex in real life – can also arouse you.

Pictophilia:

A most common natural sexual fetish. In this case, a person easily gets aroused just by watching porn or pornographic images.

Stigmatophilia:

Now, this sexual arousal happens when you considered someone’s piercing or tattoos very sexy.

Nasolingus:

As the name says: the sexual arousal and pleasure come out with sucking someone’s nose.

Necrophilia:

The sexual arousals happen when you come in contact with dead bodies. As weird as the name sounds.

Psychrophilia:

Well, this sexual arousals of feeling cold generally happen during winter. You sexually aroused while looking at other people who are feeling cold.

Podophilia:

And this sexual fetish is commonly known as foot-fetish. You are getting sexual arousal by sucking someone’s feet, nibbling, licking, touching, and caressing someone’s feet.

Urophilia:

With this fetish, people get sexual pleasure and arousal either by peeing on their partners or enjoy partner peeing on them. The best way to enjoy this fetish is having sex in a tub full of pee.

Swinging:

A different type of sexual fetish which generally seen in married couples. Both partners get sexual pleasure and arousal when intimate with other individuals.

Agalmatophilia:

One of the rarest sexual fetish. Getting sexually aroused just by watching mannequins, teddy bears, or dolls.

Hence, these are the few sexual fetishes which are a way too common and somewhere we all have one favourite of them. 

Having been in a very dysfunctional relationship myself for over four years, I have had a lot of time to analyze the warning signs. More often than not, you don’t even realize that you’re in a dysfunctional relationship until its too late and then getting out of it becomes much more difficult.

You are not in a dysfunctional relationship if you have disagreements and spats once in a while. Arguing is a normal part of a healthy and functioning relationship. Dysfunctional relationships are classified as lacking emotional support or even causing emotional trauma to one or both partners. A healthy relationship should add happiness to your life, not make you stressed.

And the reason you want to know if your relationship is dysfunctional is so you can remedy it or escape it ASAP. Staying in a dysfunctional relationship can not only cause self-esteem issues now, but those can be carried into future relationships as well.

Read on to find out the 7 deadly signs of a dysfunctional relationship.

#1 You never fight:

All healthy relationships require arguments. Everyone’s fighting style is different, but having conflict and confrontation is necessary for a successful relationship. This does not mean you have to yell and scream at your partner but communicating, and even the hard stuff is healthy. Without talking about tense subjects, a relationship becomes surface level and can grow angry and resentful.

When couples don’t talk they hold things in and can become passive-aggressive with their anger rather than communicating their feelings. Without fighting or sharing the hard stuff, there is no compromise, no honesty, and a lot of buried animosity. When a relationship looks good from the outside, there is most likely something brewing deep down. Biting your tongue when something less than happy arises is one deadly sign of a dysfunctional relationship.

#2 You feel used:

This can be a hard sign to spot. We often think that in a relationship we should put our partner. First, it is just part of being in a relationship. That, however, is not true. Sure, doing things for your partner is nice, but only if it goes both ways. If you find you are cancelling plans for your partner, but they just see you when it is convenient, that relationship is one-sided.

You and your partner should be putting in equal amounts of effort in. You should be able to take time for yourself and feel good about doing things for your partner, not taken advantage of.

#3 There is no trust:

Without trust, your relationship is pure dysfunction. Trust is what makes relationships work. Think about your friendships. If you have a friend you don’t trust you don’t rely on them, you don’t share with them, you are polite and cordial, but without trust, it is not benefiting either one of you. If you can’t trust your partner or if your partner can’t trust you it is not working.

Sure, it could seem alright on the surface, but even without jealousy fueled fights, a lack of trust eats away at you. It burns down the right parts of the relationship and takes over. And whether there was never trust or if it has been broken, it is a hard thing to regain.

#4 You don’t want to be alone:

Not wanting to be single is one of the most common reasons people stay in a dysfunctional relationship, yet is one of the biggest signs of one. A relationship needs to be tended to; it needs to have a solid foundation to last on. But, if that foundation is a fear of being alone, the relationship is resting on fear, not joy or happiness.

Trust me, being single and happy is much better than being in a dysfunctional relationship. A dysfunctional relationship that you remain in out of fear eats away at your soul. You lose that sense of partnership and excitement and are surviving on something that is slowly decaying.

#5 You feel ashamed:

This is when I finally realised my former relationship was wildly dysfunctional. Instead of feeling happy and refreshed after seeing my boyfriend, I felt like utter crap. I felt bad about myself. A relationship should leave you feeling good. It should leave you with a smile and comfort, not a lack of confidence.

I would drive home from seeing my boyfriend and feel ashamed of how I was behaving. I let him walk all over me – like a doormat. While with him that was foggy though. I wore rose-coloured glasses around him. I ignored the bad stuff and only saw the good. But, every time we were apart I felt more and more ashamed. Once I was able to realise that I was closer to working up the nerve to stand my ground.

#6 You’re being manipulated:

It can be hard to catch on when you’re being manipulated. That is the whole point. When someone manipulates you, they do it in such a way that you don’t even realise you are being duped. For me, when I questioned my ex about other girls based on proof, he would flip it around on me. He would accuse me of not trusting him, and I would end up apologizing for something he did. And I didn’t even see it until the relationship was over.

This is master manipulation. When you know, you did nothing wrong but are moulded into feeling guilty about it, and the relationship is far into the dysfunctional spectrum. At this point, it probably happens so often you are used to the pattern. But try to spot it. That is the only way you can successfully put an end to it.

#7 You’re unhappy:

I am sorry to have to tell you this, but unhappiness is a sign of a dysfunctional relationship. Sure, we all have ruts and moments where our relationships make us want to pull our hair out. But, if those moments outweigh the good ones, it is not doing you any favours.

Your relationship should add to your life, not take away from it. If your relationship is adding negativity into your life, it is dysfunctional. It is affecting your life in the wrong way. If you are unsure about this, ask a friend or whoever you’re closest to. Ask them if when talking about your relationship or your partner if you complain more than you praise. Right there is your answer.

Sex is a fun thing to have, but has it become more of an issue? For you, something you enjoy? It can happen. 

Figure out what’s happening with you? Look at our list for some sex addiction signs.

How to read sex addiction signs?

Too much of a good thing is wrong. I’m not saying sex is nasty, but addictive sex can lead to a dark side. I agree sex is fun, exciting, stress-buster, arousing, relaxing, and so on. But, when sex becomes an addiction and becomes overpowering, it becomes a cause to worry.

So, how do you know you’re getting addicted to sex? Have you ever cheated on your partner? Caught watching porn in the office? Well, it’s tricky to answer these questions, but if you answer them honestly, you get to know whether or not you are addicted? Most people know they are sex addicts but don’t want to admit it. Once you accept it, you know of your actions. And prevention is better than cure.

Definition of Sex Addiction:

Sex addiction can refer to a range of behaviors that are done in excess and significantly impact one’s life negatively.

Is Porn Addiction the Same as Sex Addiction?

Porn addiction and sex addiction are not the same disorder. Porn addiction is considered a sex addiction and can manifest itself differently from other types of sex addiction.

What Are the Different Sexual Addictions?

There are no distinct categories, but sexual addictions can come in different forms, including addiction to:

• Pornography
• Prostitution
• Masturbation and sexual fantasies
• Sadistic or masochistic behavior
• Exhibition/Voyeurism
• Other excessive sexual pursuits

The signs you’re a sex addict are here; you just need to see them.

1. Monogamy is impossible for you:

These are the people who live a double life while staying in a monogamous relationship. They like someone, live with someone else, and don’t even understand the pain they are giving to their partner. Moreover, if they are caught cheating, they instantly deny it. These types of people always seek other sexual partners, regardless of how good the sex is with their current partner. It’s never enough.

2. You’re preoccupied with sex:

You have two choices: either to attend the best friend’s wedding or to have sex with a friend or prostitute. If you go with the first option, then you’re all good, but if you opt for the second choice, then my dear friend, you need a therapist. Putting sex above everything is a loud and clear sign; you are a sex addict, and something is wrong with you.

3. Masturbate is your priority:

We all need to masturbate, but if you are masturbating a couple of times in a day or week, you are a sex addict. Sex addicts don’t need a partner to have sex to feed the urge. They can masturbate also.

4. You spend most of the time watching porn:

We all watch porn once a week or a month. But with a sex addict, a person could not resist watching porn. Porn can be used to satisfy or enhance one’s sex life sexually. See, addiction can be measured by how long you can last without the substance. If you seriously cannot spend a day without porn, that’s a big problem.

5. You don’t have functioning relationships:

All relationships around you are messed up. Your partner caught you while making out with someone else. You need to masturbate at least ten times a day and so on. All these little things are a real sign of a sex addict, which even destroys hopes in genuine love.

6. You feel powerless:

Sex made you restless and utterly hopeless. You are not sure what to do, whom to talk to, where to go, and naturally, don’t leave with many choices. Little by little, you lose everything. Talk to someone whom you can trust.

7. Your kinkiness takes over you:

Everyone has a kinky side, and it is not something new. Some people like to keep their life revolving around kinks, and if you are facing them, you need to talk to a professional. These are the stuff that you don’t want to cater to in your life, but being a sex addict, you can’t let them go. Though tying your partner up may have been fun in the beginning, walking them on a leash is a little much.

8. You love to have sex with strangers and prostitutes:

Having sex on the first date or encounter with an escort is not a bad thing. But if you are continually looking for strangers to have sex with, then everything is wrong. If so, you may be a sex addict.

9. You hate yourself:

You have no desire to do anything, yet in the wake of looking at what you have finished with other’s life, makes you hate yourself. Thou detest how you enabled sex to dominate. What sex has done to your life, and that you let it get this far.

10. You start living a double life:

Who knows, your sex addiction becomes part of your present life? With time, people figure out what’s wrong with you, but if you work hard to keep your current life with this dark side at a distance from each other, you must win.

Conclusion:

Did you mark any of these signs? If yes, then it’s a sure sign of a sex addict. Talk to someone or consult a professional therapist. Get the help you need to enjoy your life again.

Men cheat more than women. All of you might be surprised to know that there’s more to cheating than just sex in men’s minds.

Men & cheating – a ubiquitous phrase and story of every unhappy relationship. When it comes to male cheating, shared knowledge denotes that men usually cheat out of a need for sex.

Even scientists proved it several years ago. However, recently, a psychotherapist named Gary Numan and his colleagues gained popularity by saying that sex is not only the reason men cheat but there is also more than that. Some men cheat because they are unsatisfied in a relationship and thought utilizing porn as sexual pleasure in a committed relationship is not cheating. Cheating is strangely a behavior that makes it hard for men to be good boyfriends, fathers, and husbands.

Why do men cheat?

According to new findings, most men cheat because of a lack of emotional support. Men look sturdy and muscular from the external point of view, but they too have a soft centre. Only a few men are more sensitive than women and show it – the rest choose to hide it behind a facade. Therefore, they need constant praise, appreciation, and attention. And the lack of these becomes the reason for cheating.

According to the General Social Survey – 20% of men admit to cheating, compared to 13% of women. Healthy men who cheat occasionally are not pathological; they’re immature. The good news is that most men don’t need to cheat to understand the hurt it may cause their partners. Continued communication about trust, intimacy, and opportunities for temptation as they arise can erase that problem.

Where do men find people to cheat with?

If a man wants an affair, they get a partner to date by any hook or crook. Perhaps, they prefer an online dating app to see who’s out there. Otherwise, they start to look where accomplishment matters, which is their office because it’s standard workplace etiquette. Since people get attracted to those who are achievers and in office, you get to meet a lot of successful people and feel the charm of their personalities.

5 Reasons Why Men Cheat

They are liars: Committing is easy, but respecting it is also necessary. Most men never intended to be monogamous, despite their commitments. These men can never understand and appreciate the vows of fidelity. And instead of sharing the love with the partner, they take monogamy into something to be worked around rather than embraced.

They are immature: Men think that they cherish the moment until their partner doesn’t find out what they are doing. But they do not understand the pain which they are giving to their partner. These types of men are immature and won’t be able to handle if something unexpected shows up.

They are insecure: Insecurity can be with anything. It can be height, figure, complexion, knowledge, personality, etc… And these men who take insecurity seriously use porn and extramarital sex as a way to feel better about themselves.

They are confused about love: Love binds people. But in the modern age, relationships have become a game. Men delve into a relationship just for the sake of their partner’s attractiveness. The relationship tends to start with an early rush of romance and ends with intense fights. Men don’t understand what pain they are causing their partner with making the sweet commitment and long-term attachments, which gradually are being replaced when they find someone new.

They are damaged: Men who have gone through traumatic experiences are more likely to cheat because they could never give full commitment to another person. Additionally, they also seek outside relationships to self-medicate their emotional and psychological pain.

Here’s A Wrap!

For ages, cheating has been scrutinized as an unfortunate habit that destroys the relationship.

If you suspect your man is cheating, but you don’t have evidence. You can use the best spy app to catch a cheater with evidence (confidentially) and after that, ask your man not to cheat again. The bottom line is that the cheater never fully gets what he wants. Infidelity is nearly always discovered eventually, and when that happens, it inevitably comes with devastatingly painful consequences.

Undoubtedly sex is impressive and pleasurable. For some, sex works as a stress-buster, cure of depression, and the dose of toxic hazards.

That has been said, not every session of sex is mind-blowing; imagine your first encounter with sexual pleasure. It must have at least one embarrassing moment or a strange story that you want to share. Further, when you remember that awkward moment of your first encounter with sex, you will inevitably burst out laughing.

Well, sex always remains a mystery until the much-awaited moment arrives. And it’s far different from watching movies and building anticipation in our mind – those portrayals rarely get it right — especially for the first time.

A guide to first-time sex

First, sex will not change you. It might hurt, might not – varies from person to person. And most probably, your first encounter with sex won’t be mind-blowing, trust me. There can be different scenarios, and everyone gets to experience different situations when they jump on the bed for the first time. Whatever it takes, the first encounter with sex always is special and memorable.

Here are a few things which a person must know while having sex the first time.

Keep low expectations:

Let’s be honest; your first confront with sexual pleasure won’t be surprising. So, stop expecting so much like this is my first time, so it should be magical or something out of the fairytales. Learning to have excellent sex skills is art. Start slowly and gradually; with time, it develops. Naturally, your first-time experience might be a bummer if you have set your expectation level too high.

Do only when you want to:

I never thought of getting intimate under the peer-pressure or just out of curiosity. Don’t be greedy for sensuality. And, if the thought like this (M the only virgin left in my friends’ group and I have to prove something) comes to your mind, you must try to avoid all these nuisances. You can only make the most of sex when you both are willing and want to do it. No one can force anyone to have sex, remember. Take your time, prepare yourself, calm your mind, and when the right time comes, your first time is fun and enjoyable.

Done fake it:

The most important thing for first-timers is don’t pretend to be satisfied just to please your partner. Such a step can breed bitterness and even spoil the relationship. Since it’s your first time, you are still exploring things, and faking an orgasm is a big no-no!

Indulge in great foreplay:

Foreplay is super important. Spend as much time as you can in fantastic foreplay. Because it’s the root of happy sex that helps you and your partner correctly turned on before penetrative sex. Kiss, lick and stimulate your partner as much as possible, and once you feel it, that means you are ready for it. You both should be amply aroused. Otherwise, love would be painful and disastrous.

Use a good lube:

A great lube can do wondrous things. Hence, invest in good-quality lube. You can go with any lube, be it a water-based lubricant or silicone lubricant, keep yourself away from unwanted pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. Being a first-timer, always keep a lubricant handy.

Orgasms should not be a goal:

Oh, common, you are getting intimating the first time; how could you expect a mind-blowing orgasm? In fact, rather than focusing on big-O, enjoy the sexual experience. Getting orgasms should not be your goal. If it happens, then it’s good; otherwise, just go with the flow.

It might not happen again:

What if you won’t end up with penetrative sex, that’s fine. Though it’s your first time, enjoy it rather than get bogged down.

You might not bleed:

Bleeding and sex these two things are not at all related to each other. So, if you won’t drain the first time, it is entirely normal. Your virginity has nothing to do with the few drops of blood. Chances are your hymen got broken way earlier, and you don’t even realize it.

Will it be painful?

Sometimes, first-time sex might be painful. You can consult a Gynaecologist if the sex pain lasts for longer.