The movie Veere di wedding covered masturbation well with “apna hath Jagannath.” After all, who other than you could know best what you want on the bed and, most importantly, when you want it.
With monogamy gone in the dumpster, nobody can guarantee you a mate at all times. You can try one-night stands or friends with benefits, but even these systems are not for everyone. Here comes the role of masturbation. You can easily experience sexual pleasure without having to compromise your values. Plus, if you know what you like and what you enjoy the most, you’ll be able to communicate that to your partner better.
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Here is everything you need to know about female masturbation:
What are the different erogenous zones that you can stimulate to gain orgasm?
When having sex with a mate, the possibilities are endless. They can nibble and tickle you at places you have never even thought are your erogenous zones. But running solo limits these possibilities. You can’t reach all the parts of your body, and just like you can’t tickle yourself, there are a few spots where you can’t stimulate yourself.
So at what spots should you work to reach the peak? Dr. Archana Dhawan Bajaj, a Delhi-based gynecologist, says, “Perhaps the most easily arousable area is the clitoris. Clitoris is a bead-like structure that is visible upside at the vaginal wall. It has a lot of nerve endings, so when you start stimulating that or the outer lips of the vulva, it usually leads to an external orgasm. So you are not penetrating any internal tissue. And it is an orgasm that is very easy to obtain.”
She continued by saying, “Another area that one could stimulate is the vaginal tract itself. Alternatively, it could be the nipples.”
How to find your G-spot?
So now you know what areas to stimulate, but do you know where your G-spot is? Yes, the most wanted, highly (over)rated, G spot.
Dr. Archana says, “It is usually in the upper anterior part of the vaginal wall, somewhere between the upper one-third and the lower two-thirds of the vaginal tract.”
Ladies, the following is a brief how-to guide to finding your G-spot;
1. Start by relaxing. As you begin to explore your body, do what you think is best for you. Start massaging the vaginal opening before inserting your finger there when you’re ready.
2. Then, use your finger to lift the vaginal wall towards your navel with the “come here” action. Remember that instead of pressing a specific button, you are trying to find what feels best to you in that region.
3. Repeat the movement as the sensation increases. Don’t try to mimic penetration through in and out movements; rather, focus your attention on this area.
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Is Anal orgasm possible with masturbation?
Women who have experienced anal orgasm will tell you it’s probably more pleasurable than conventional sex. But is it possible to achieve anal orgasm via masturbation?
Dr. Archana says yes. “You can achieve anal orgasm either through stimulation of anal orifice or through penetration into the anal tract. A lot of people prefer to combine the two modes. They do anal masturbation along with vaginal masturbation.”
Now there is a G spot for your vagina, so is there any such specific spot for your anal tract that could leave your hips shaking when stimulated.
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Dr. Archana answers it as, “Technically speaking, most of the anal tract is quite sensitive. So if you were to look at a particular spot like a G spot in the anus that has not been clearly defined.” She continued, “While you are stimulating your anal tract, there is also some vaginal stimulation happening simultaneously. There is a very fine area of tissue between the vaginal tract and the anal tract. So when you start stimulating the anal sphincter or the anal tract per se, there will be some amount of excitement in the vagina as well. “
How to practice “safe-masturbation”?
You must have heard and learned about safe sex. Now is the time to know about “safe masturbation.” Just like with sex, you always run a chance of catching an infection while masturbating with toys or even fingers if you are not paying full attention to your hygiene. “You must practice personal hygiene, wash the parts and your hands before and after the masturbation. You must ensure the toys are also made of hygienic materials,” said Dr. Archana. She continued, “Regular or aggressive masturbation may irritate the vaginal walls and urethra, and urethral irritation often precipitates UTI (Urinary Tract Infection). So make sure you are not overdoing it.”
It doesn’t end with infections. If you are not being cautious, you might even hurt yourself. Dr. Archana continued, “It is always better to use a fair amount of lubricant when you are trying to penetrate the anal tract because the initial anal penetration is usually uncomfortable and can be painful. Whatever you are using, your finger or a sex toy, apply some lubricant on it before you enter the area.”
She also told us, “If you are using sex stimulators or tools, you should be careful about the quality and the kind so that you don’t end up injuring or bleeding the vaginal mucosa or any other sensitive tissue. The material shouldn’t be toxic or such that it could spread some sort of infection.”
If you are intrigued with the concept of anal masturbation and want to give it a go, here is a piece of advice from Dr. Archana for you, “Anal stimulation can be a little tricky, so unless a woman has tried it in the past, enjoyed it, and has found relief, only then should she try anal masturbation. The anal mucosa is more vulnerable to injury, so it should be done with caution.”
Takeaway
Masturbation is an easy way of experiencing sexual pleasure. Some parts of it may be tricky, but if you are proceeding with caution and enough research, you are guaranteed a fun ride.
