When you put yourself out there in the dating world, you step into a zone of vulnerability. This is especially true for dating apps. While talking and dating a complete stranger that you met online, there is always a risk of you being played. And I can’t think of anything more heartbreaking than vesting your trust in someone just to be played by that person. Luckily, Karolina Bartnik, a dating and relationship expert, shares a few tips to filter out casanovas on a dating app.
Who is A Casanova?
A Casanova is a charming and talkative person who has mastered the art of finding, meeting, attracting, and seducing beautiful women into his bedroom. When he achieves his goal, he leaves the woman and proceeds to search for his next conquest.
Use these tips to prevent wasting your time and energy on someone unworthy.
1. He’ll pass sexual remarks during the initial phase of chatting.
Karolina stated, “The first sign of a casanova on a dating app is if he starts by making a sexual offer. You two start chatting, and the first thing he says is, ‘I can give you the best orgasm of your life’ or ‘Let’s meet at my place for the first date,’ that’s a sign that this person is interested only in sex.”
2. He’ll push to meet up very soon.
“If he is interested in just sex, he’ll try to close the deal as soon as possible. You might even feel pressured by this person into meeting right away,” Karolina concluded.
3. Intimacy will be a big ”No No” for them.
Karolina explained, “Casanovas are scared of intimacy and connecting. So they’ll keep the conversation very superficial. You won’t feel like you are getting to know this person. He’d be flirty and playful, and it might seem like he is putting in efforts to give you the attention, but it is just an attempt to charm you. You won’t feel like you are making a friend.”
5. He will be very secretive about himself.
Karolina told us, “Casanovas or playboys don’t reveal much about themselves. So after chatting with a person for a week, if you still feel you don’t know anything about them. If he’s fun and makes you feel good, but when you ask yourself, ‘Do I know anything about this guy’ and you don’t get a meaningful answer, it probably means you are being played.”
6. His profile will be too generic and all about his looks.
Karolina said, “If something looks too good to be true, it probably is. If a guy whose profile is all about his appearances and doesn’t reveal much about how he is as a person, there is a chance that he is a player. His bio might be attention-grabbing but very generic, like ‘I love traveling and reading books.’ This is also where you can get hints.”
A casanova never posts about dating/going out with other women. Also, if he’s tagged in a photo or status, he untags himself or hides it from his timeline. He never posts about his personal life.
7. He is very attractive.
This might come across as cliche, but a casanova is likely to be good-looking, well-groomed, elegant, and very confident. He uses his looks to his advantage and has no problem attracting a woman.
8. He is following a lot of women on social media.
Sure, having friends of the opposite sex is not a bad thing, but if you know he follows a lot of girls on social media, he definitely has wandering eyes. No one wastes time going through a girl’s photo if they don’t want to have something to do with her. Especially when many women comment on his photo with a heart emoji, it is a sign something fishy is going on here.
